Friday, March 18, 2011

How to Talk to Your Ex

Once you divorce your spouse, or you permanently break up with your significant one, the way you communicate with your Ex will have a huge impact on the quality of your relationship with him/her.  If you have children in common, you will need to talk with your Ex; it's unavoidable.

The end of the relationship marks the end of the former intimay and familiarity.  After the divorce/break up your former other half reverts to being someone you have to treat with the utmost respect you reserve for perfect strangers.  If you are talking to her, think you are addressing the Queen of England.  If you are talking with him, think you are addressing President Obama.  You can substitute the Queen and the President for people you personally respect, but you must remember that your communications have to reflect the change in the relationship.

You can take the initiative in changing the tone of your communications.  Common courtesy and consideraton will go a long way in facilitating your necessary exchanges regarding child support, visitation, and the many other issues involved in raising a child.